Judge and Jury Syndrome

Judge and Jury Syndrome

This is a true story by Kathy Henderson

“I was at the local pool when I noticed a frightened adolescent taking swimming lessons. “No! No, please, I can’t!” she begged. She stood a head taller than the rest of the beginner swim class, but she sobbed like a four year old.

“Jump in, I’ll catch you!” her teacher called. The girl bawled, “No! I can’t!”

“Why do they pamper her?” I said to my friend. “Her fear only gets worse the longer they delay.”

A third coach tossed the weary instructor a life preserver. It took both adults to drag the girl to the water and lower her into the arms of her teacher.

“Well, it’s about time! I thought. “They should have done that fifteen minutes ago.”

Another instructor appeared beside me. “That girl went boating with her parents and brother last summer. The boat capsized, and her father managed to save only her. She watched her mother and brother drown. Now her father insists she learn to swim.”

Those words stung. I looked at the drenched child as she climbed out of the pool. I had not witnessed typical childish fear-I’d just seen a young girl cross a terrifying mountain.

Forgive me, child.

Forgive me, Lord.”

By Kathy Henderson

Though we cannot be omniscient, we can employ wisdom in our discernment about others.


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Dad
    Jun 03, 2011 @ 02:34:26

    That story is awesome. Your Grandfather, Paya, experienced something akin to this story. His father, your great Grandfather Frank Miller, thinking the way to teach his son to swim was to throw him into Indian lake and let him fend for himself, did so. Somehow your Grandfather survived, but from that day he was deathly afraid of water. He never went swimming with us when we were children and we just couldn’t understand why. Paya was in WWII and traveling to the Pacific to fight the Japs, his ship was torpedoed twice. This scared him terribly, even more than the Japs he was fighting. All of this was due to the misguided understanding of his Father and how he thought educating his children in the art of swimming should be accomplished. Fathers DO NOT always know best!


  2. two parts whimsical one part peculiar
    Jun 05, 2011 @ 02:33:09

    That is so sad. I don’t blame Paya for having a phobia of water like that. It takes time to learn how to swim, its amazing that he didn’t drown! (Drowning is is the number two cause of accidental death in children. Most of them are within 25 yards of a parent or other adult. In ten percent of those drownings, the adult will actually watch them do it, having no idea it is happening. Its a horrible way to go and never looks like what they show on T.V). I am surprised that Paya went into the Navy knowing he was going to be on water most of the time… maybe that was his way of trying to rid himself of that phobia? Or maybe he thought he would have security on such large ships? That must have been incredibly frighting for him. I am lucky because I have a father that does know best! *Smiles* 🙂


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